Ah. I often wonder if it is because I was also a WAS, I just chose to stay in marriage and see if things would change. So while I was never done as H is, I can understand and validate his feelings....and I truly love him, so to see him working it out makes me happy too. I am sure there will come a time, perhaps when they move in, that it will be truly necessary to detach completely, just to be able to continue my own path.
He texts, he doesn't text, he can't wait for GF to go away a, he can't wait for her to come back, he talks with me, he doesn't .. This is a guy who has some issues and he is not done yet. Not with this R with me.
So it is a balancing act and we each do what we have to do and what we think works, first of all for us. The day this no longer works for me is the day it changes. His decisions, for the most part, do not occupy my brain, and when he talks of OW, it is not in glowing terms etc. just an opinion where our lives all intersect, so how do I ignore this? H knows how I feel and knows what I want. It is all I can do
