You sound good, like your really do get the reality of your sitch, your just wading through it at your own pace. That's perfectly fine as long as time is on your side, which it seems to be.
I'm wasn't really considering moving out, I want him out now. With the new grand baby coming I am working on my home and staying put, h has to get his asss out, I'm done with him. I'm done with him because of his insistence about ea and his lack of character, respect and commitment to be a family member. He wants me to just consider him a paycheck and leave him home to bring in the money.
It's all to disgusting and nauseating for me I just want him gone. He's soo ugly!
I am not doing to bad though I have been getting out more and have gone to some dinners with friends. I feel good, I'm just done with him, otherwise I'm ok.
You sound ok too, but NJ is a thorn for you. Tell those negatives in your life to shut up...so you can at least only have to deal with mom. You don't have to stay and listen to her either, go do what you do for her, kiss and leave. If you cook for her cook at home bring too her, if you shop for her bring it into the cabinet and go, always seem to be on to the next project when around her. You can't avoid her but you can make it quick.
People can not be allowed to dumb on you any more and when you get control of that your control over your h sitch will be easy, he's just a man.
Hope your NJ trip is good, be safe!
The past can't be ahead of you in the future. You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction. What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!
