Hello From Tokyo! Husband has issues....

[MrBond]

Have you actually read DB or DR?

I would suggest that you try being slowly affectionate towards him because what you're doing isn't working. He told you that he wanted to get off meds which you disagreed with, but you said he has gotten much better. He might just be scared and your distancing probably wasn't helping much.

Since he's Japanese, he might have the typical "samurai" attitude where he doesn't show weakness. It's not like Americans. Try a light touch here and there, then increase the frequency. The majority of your issues stemmed from his depression, so I'm not sure what you mean by "how patient is patient". I'm assuming you made vows when you got married. He was sick before.

What were some of the things that you did before that attracted the two of you together?