P2, Great goals. I think what helped me to surrender was not only knowing I would be ok (looking towards the future) but seeing how long I'd been on my own and I was doing just fine.
It also helped to know that tomorrow would be the same as today as long as I continued to work on maintaining my serenity.
Good luck to you ;-)
M 42 H 39 T10 (-2yrs separation) S8 D5 DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA) Reconciled 6/2013 Separation in works 1/2017