So on her birthday, I left a cake at home with a present of perfume. My wife had some cake with our girls, and then at 6pm left to the gym. As mentioned previously she had texted me. After the gym, she had planned on going out for a drink with her girlfriend and them coming home. Well, she didn't return until a little after 10pm. I got into bed, but I wasn't asleep. I thought it would be foolish to pretend to be asleep. She came in, and I could tell she was feeling guilty. She got into bed naked, and came over to me. I wasn't in the mood. I tried to act "as-if". She told me that her friend arranged a cake and food at the bar, and many of the guys from the gym joined them. I know there is one guy that she has something like a HS girl infatuation with. My guess is that he was there too. Who knows.
She asked me if I was mad. No I replied. She asked, and then badgered me to tell her what I was thinking. I said, "nothing". Eventually, she let up and we went to sleep. Although she woke again at 2am and was tossing and turning.
She did like the present I got alot. Gift-giving is definitely her love language. Also, this is a 180 for me, since I was a terrible gift-giver. She thanked me for the gift, and said she loved it. The next day from work she emailed me that she smelled great.
I think I have detached, but at times like this I realize I have a lot to do still. I think part of my problem, is that when I see positive signs from her, I feel like, "OK, we're on the right path, everythings going to be OK." Essentially, when things are good, I pull-back on DB-ing.
