I would suggest that you follow his lead because if you were to initiate it, it must might scare him even further into the tunnel. Keep in mind, mlcers do not look at "making love" the same way that a normal person would in a relationship. Right now it's just sex, no emotions attached to it.
Hi MaL,
I just wanted to comment on this from your other thread, I say "do what works". Also, there's a nice post from MWD on this forum of things to consider in this aspect.
And snodderly always has great advice. She always says "follow his lead". In my sitch, there were times of intimacy and times without. I totally agree that a person in MLC is not looking for emotional intimacy but it is a tie with you that keeps some of his heart there. You hafta not let it break your heart when it's not the magic potion that brings him back, but there is a time and a place for it if he is interested (keeping in mind STD's always).
There's also a time and place for saying "no" when he is interested also. Only you can decide I think.
I hungrily devoured the Laura Munson book twice soon after my H moved out. It did give me courage and hope. I even emailed her and she emailed me back and said "if the commitment is to take care of yourself and get out of his way then you are in a good place."
Keep reading, posting, hoping, and working on yourself Wishing you strength and courage, rH
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
