Heart of the Matter

[labug]

Thanks everyone, I haven't let this get to me too much past this morning. I went and visited a friend, then had lunch with some work friends. It's good to GAL.

Thanks for the reinforcement that I wasn't being unreasonable. This is a throwback for me because in the past I would bring something up, he would shut down, and that would be the end of it on his side. So I would keep talking, trying to get some kind of reaction/response and he would shut down more. This time I caught myself but it brought back some old feelings of my needs being unimportant.

I would have liked an apology but he did say he understood and he knew what he needed to do.

Not communicating with me and expecting that to be done by our sons is a pattern of H's. S20 has enough to deal with, so making him the communication go-between is unfair. How difficult would it be to send an text or email, "I'm coming up to get something from the garage. I'll be there around 8"?

NLW, you're right, I wish I could have been witty. I think most of us only have a few people we're comfortable with seeing us first thing in the morning. Of course H has seen me like that many, many times (what's 365x33 give or take a few?) but that was then. This is now. I was embarrassed, plain and simple.

I read this today and it hit the nail on the head:
The more you approve of your own decisions in life, the less you feel the need to have them approved or accepted by others.

Thanks again.