Thanks, yeah, I didn't know to what you were referring as magical thinking and what you meant by that. So it's magical thinking because he said he thought he'd move back, instead of asking if it was ok for him to move back or saying he would like to move back. It's in the tone? I think it's ok and good to for WAH to bring up something he would like, and hear the response even if it's not-on-your-life or not-until-you're-not-cheating-on-me.
The alternative would be he reads T's mind and knows she's not going to agree to it so he stays put and doesn't bring it up, that's not healthy communication.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
