My H showed up at my house this morning at 8:15 to get his jack. Apparently he had emailed S20 that he would be coming and that wasn't shared with me. So here I sat in my ratty robe looking like I'd just climbed out of bed. I've worked a lot of hours this week and was just enjoying not having to be somewhere early.
He has not often communicated with me about when he's coming here and I feel disrespected by that. So I told him I would like him to let me know when he's coming like he would anyone else who he would be visiting that early on a Sat. I said I love that you come up and get S but it's helpful when I'm also in the loop. He then shifted it to say he thought S would let me know. He said he didn't think it would be a big deal and that he understood, but I could tell he was uncomfortable, not sure if he was angry. I said It's not a big deal, I'd just like to know. He then said I understand what I need to do.
S wasn't up yet and he left without him and without another word to me.
Did we fall into an old pattern? A little. I wasn't angry about it, didn't raise my voice, didn't cry just wanted to let him know what I needed, and that's difficult for me. I always feel I'm being unreasonable.
Ask me some questions, help me figure this out. I'm feeling better about it already.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
