I just re-read your first post. How old is OW?

He may just need to let this fantasy of her play out, especially if she's not really interested in him.

There's an old song with the line, he's middle-aged crazy trying to prove he still can.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss