advina...i was actually talking about the big picture......about how to handle the situation........for example, because my h had been abandoned as a child by a parent, and has attachment issues, i had to take what i learned in db and tailor it to my situation.....that's all i meant.......
his wife might need to know that he cares about what he knows....acting "as if" in this instance might not be the right thing for him
he knows much better than we do what she needs....he might need to think about that for a bit (sorry to talk about you as if you are not here) but ultimately, he knows her and we don't
