Thanks GTO! I'm looking forward to meeting you too. It would be nice to meet everyone who's helped me so much...
I spoke with the L today, who recommended special masters or 4 way meeting with my H's L. He said to not give in on any of the support clauses. I told him my H's concern about having to pay alimony for the full 6 yrs. L said, "Tough luck, buddy." It's funny. If I wanted to be adversarial, I know I could get a lot more financially. I asked about mediation. He said it'd be ok but knowing me, he should be there.
So I spoke with the mediator after. She was really nice and said she recommended no L's during the sessions bc they L's tend to take over and no one gets anywhere.
This is what I'm thinking: 1. Try the mediation. It's not that much $$, considering the options. 2. If H remains stubborn and does not want to compromise, I'll go straight to the Special Masters. He'll be worse off financially.
Something happened today: Somehow, my fear of the court is not there anymore. I feel it's okay to go do the Special Masters if needed.
I met with a counselor from my new church, who told me that being peaceful doesn't mean to appease people by agreeing to stuff that is not fair. She said that conflict can be managed in a peaceful way. Which makes sense. I am not going to be a doormat just because I want my H to be content.
Feel stronger. Of course this AM I was a mess, so that shows you how emotions can change :-)
