Afterwords she went on the computer (open screen in the living room)and proceeded to chat with 2 guys and kept looking back to see if I was noticing.
I don't see why you should have to put up with this. You could set a boundary on it. I'm pretty sure that's what I would do in this situation.
Chatting with other men in my presence is disrespectful to me and our marriage, and will not be tolerated by me.
There has to be a consequence for her failure to comply. Cut off one benefit or another that you are providing. Think hard on this before proceeding, because you MUST hold to your consequence or your boundaries mean nothing, and have no power.
First, I would ask.
Are you chatting with other men? Do you know that is disrespectful?
If this doesn't stop the behavior then you move to TELL:
I would really appreciate it if you did not do that in my presence.
If this doesn't stop the behavior then you move to REQUEST w/consequence.
If you continue to do that, then... <your consequence> ...and follow through. Every time.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
