Seriously? And you didn't think it was important to mention it here? What was her reasoning? What did you do?
"She gave me a shopping list, presumably written on purpose on the back of a letter to the OM, which is how I found out."
That's pretty obvious it was a call for you to DO SOMETHING. That she wanted you to FEEL something. What did you do?
"I confronted her, and she said it is over. Do not remember details."
This shows how out of touch you are about your feelings. How can you not remember? Didn't it ring any bells to get your @$$ in gear and do something? How was it resolved or did you just sweep it under the rug again? What did SHE want?
"She also separated from me while we lived in Germany, getting her own room for a while, twice."
Why?
"I was invited over frequently."
And what happened during those times? Did you have sex? Did you talk about any intimacy or relationship issues? Or did you just talk about which flowers to trim?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.