Is there light at the end of the tunnel Part 1?

[Bel123]

Mach1- the way you put things into perspective and your wisdom always puts me at ease. And funny too with the dress code comment

Time and space will allow then to do away with a lot of that anger. As long as YOU don't perpetuate it, and provoke it into attending other events in your life.

I am staying away from it and I have seen how much small actions or negative thoughts can move me in a way I say or do something that have provoked it. Like snooping and thinking whatever I find, I can keep it to myself and not let it affect me on how I interact with W. That has been false ALL of the time. I have been so emotionally vested, was not able to just keep it inside. Even if I did not confront her, it came out on how I interacted with her.

Working on you, will allow you to accept your part in the failure of the relationship, and allow you to own your truth.

I know I have been saying I know my failures in the relationship but I am sure there are many I have not realized and hope I can see then as I grow as a person and be able to address them in a positive way.

What would you say, not her, was YOUR biggest deficiency in the Marriage ???
Something that YOU didn't like about your role ???

My biggest deficiency would be at some point I got too comfortable about where I was in life. I told myself I have a good job, got a house, a great W, I am health so I went on cruise control. I also started taking things for granted. I stopped living life the way I did before as in keeping up with friends, family and traveling and live life. I gravitated to W's friends and depended on her for activity planning and things like that. I also made it hard on her when she planned some things where it usually takes me a while to get with a vacation plan and things like that. My focus was about work and getting ahead and sort of dropped the ball about the relationship. I also was not able to share with her my desire bring my daughter to live with us from early on.