Thanks, Pmac. I expect this will be a slow process. In fact, I'm not even sure I'm willing to commit a lot of time to waiting. I stopped and consciously asked myself what I wanted to do both when my W filed and when the D was finalized. The recommendations I got from friends was to move on. Both times when I thought about it I realized I didn't want to close the door on my hope for a reconciliation.

However, DB is a nice approach that pushes me to be a better person in my life, and helps put a lot of my worries about whether there really is any hope into the background.


H: 38 xW: 38
M: 16 T: 18
S: 9
BD: 2/2012
W moved out 4/2012
D: 11/2012