trying to get her back

[25yearsmlc]

I did say that if she did remove it would expect her to return it later, but I know she will not. Just the same when she promise to help pay the our house bills and she stop giving my money for them.
It is just weird, WHY is it ok for me to have to give her money but not fair if it the other way around.

After you informed her, for some reason, that she could take ALL the money out and you could not do a thing....she took exactly half. And you are still leaving the rest there for her to take if she wants?

why? Why not put that in a new separate (transparent to the court later) account that she cannot touch so you KNOW you'll have enough for bills and you?

I would. BUT I'd also let her know that since she took her half and you cannot touch it, which you understand probably stemmed from her distrust, and which maybe you regret b/c trust is going to be needed going forward, no matter what,

But you also removed the remaining funds, "your share" and put it in another account and "oh fyi" the old account is closed, "thought you should know", etc.

no anger. Just the facts and if you want to show CHANGE, then acknowledge that you see how SHE could see it as fair,

but you could have used notice. And by giving HER notice that the old account is now closed, you are not being a hypocrite.

as for why she thinks something is fair,, based on what YOU wrote it clearly was.

She says she'll pay it back OR you think she'll have to BUT not if you "take" the other half. Then you've just split assets.

When it comes to debt, I don't know your situation.

If she is incurring debt, on her own, then your sep helps YOU....but again, I don't know what is going on there w/debts.

Just looks to me as if you gave her permission to take it all but she only took half, and now you can do the same but letting her know it.

At least you're protecting yourself and if you do it without anger, you'll look like you are a different person.

My guess, and it's only that, is that you have had a temper problem in the past and that may be an issue you really need to work on.

IF so, this needs to be seen as an opportunity for showing change in you.

Good luck!