Cadet, Thanks for the welcome. My S is 7 and D is 2. I have a great relationship with them. I love them to pieces. I miss them greatly. I was able to be with them about 3 weeks ago for 2 days when I was TDY in Germany. W brought them down. I did express to him that whatever happens with Mamma and I is not in any way his fault. My S calls me almost every night to just tell me about his day and what toy he's playing with and what he built with his LEGOS. My D has no idea what is going on, too young. Yup, you're right about being out of the pic too long, but I've been providing for them. I'll have to ask about what she envisions as the end goal vs. mine, yes. Well, thanks to seeing from these forums that even after DV, things could turn around, I do still have hope.
