Is she open to counseling? Not MC, but an IC? Books are great but they only scratch the surface for someone who needs to go deeper.
This might be too early to suggest that. I'm reading a book Family Communication which Ad suggested and am finding it helpful. Maybe the 2 of you could take a parenting class together. Find a good one and it can be very helpful. H and I did one when our sons were not much older than your son.
I do hope for the best for you and your family.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
"For Better or For Best (Understanding your Husband)" by Gary Smalley
Almost any book on marriage by Smalley, and she may profit from reading "Love is a Decision".
"Healing the Hurt in Your Marriage" by Dr. Gary & Barbara Rosberg
"When Love Dies" by Judy Bodmer
Christian bookstores have tons of books on M. If it were me, I would feel more comfortable choosing something in that type of location b/c there are some crazy things in a secular bookstore.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Things are developing rather nicely at the moment. Sorry I have not taken the time to update much lately. I'll try to forgo my typical mile-long post and cut to the meat of it if I can.
Over the past few weeks we have had some really, really positive discussions and have spent time with our S. Her mom was in town this past week and we had a nice catch-up talk.
Now that my parents are in their own place, things have taken a much better turn and (as noted) we have discussed spending a few days a week under the same roof - mine, specifically. Last night was the first night we slept in our bed together since the bomb date.....naturally, that was after we all made dinner together and put our son to sleep. It was pleasant, but admittedly felt odd. I really had gotten used to sleeping alone! I'm not complaining, though.
As she left for work she said "I left my toiletries in the master bathroom.....I didn't know if you wanted me to sleep here again tonight, too.".....I simply said "come on back".
Granted, I have learned through trial and error that things can always go up or down - but things are in a positive spot right now after over a year and a half. She is in a place where she wants to work on R - that is good. But again, I know this is neither over nor easy. Still a lot of work to do and we both know it.
