You should do 180s that work for you and feel right to you, things you know you need to change. An occasional back rub won't seal the fate of your marriage but you might find down the line that you no longer want to do that.
The other aspect of DBing, you do what works. That seems a bit game-like but it's true of other aspects of our lives. We should always be evaluating and adjusting.
We just don't, we become complacent, unhappy and stuck.
You've been given a great opportunity to reset your life.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
