Myself, feeling very down. W moving out tomorrow, cant get my head around it. So so sad. It really is a rollercoater, after talking to C yesterday, i felt ok, quite positive ( as much as i can be in my sitch), and then hours later.... Bang! Rock bottom again....
It's normal to cycle through emotions like that. And your W moving out is a big change in your life. You're going to grieve and you're going to be in pain, so give yourself some time for that. It helps to try and stay busy, but don't fight your emotions, let them pass through.
Separation is a new beginning for you and your W. I don't think my W even began the healing process until she moved out. It's very difficult to detach and give your W time and space when she's under the same roof. Often they need to get out before they really get the space they need. And it's normal for us all to be codependent to our spouses to some extent, separation allows us to break those bonds of codependence and become independent people again. And that independence is probably what your W was attracted to in the first place, and with ample time she may be attracted to it again.
