Is it too soon to give up hope?

[2ndtimearoundCA]

You are both probably right... I am being too agreeable .. I was thinking many things when I contacted the paralegal company. I want to make sure that the D doesn't financially destroy me.. Being agreeable and not using lawyers. I was scared that the marriage cannot survive because I had just found out that there is another man in the picture. I was trying to take control where I felt I had lost some. Finally I did read someplace that initiating D could actually draw w back to me. Anyway neither one of us has actually signed anything yet. We have just had phone conversations with company. I still have well over 6 months before the D could possibly go through... I am much more worried about move out date. By removing pressure of a legal battle I thouht I could focus better on the relationship part of the marriage. What do you think that the effect will be on the relationship from starting the D?