Without a doubt I believe my years in a 12 step program has helped me with DBing.
I told him no. But I also said we don't have to figure out what happens closer to the baby. I was just shocked he thought he could move back in 3 months before he's due.
I will discuss more with my IC in 2 weeks. Unfortunately, neither of us have been able to see her for a month. She was on vacation. I might, might be open to an in house S closer to the baby being here. But living with the man I love, actively trying to be with me & someone else was emotionally taxing. Add a newborn & inthinkbit would be impossible. I really didn't want to get into much yesterday, but I did say, what would be different? No way he can live here and we don't end up sleeping together. Then the eventual anguish of him talking to her. Blah, blah.
He's got things to think about. Amazingly I'm the one said nothing needs to be worked out now. Just things to think about. Earlier yesterday he did send a text that meant alot to me; now & forever u deserve everything. It's funny. Now that I'm on my own, I'm doing all of the things that I use to complain about u doing. Not keeping house clean, laundry, sporatic grocery shopping. I guess compassion is a learning process" I texted back: and do it with 2 kids. You can also substitute 2 monkeys. Same diff". He laughed back, but brought it up again in person.
He truly is lost. I am glad he brought this up so that he does get that he can't just come back in here like nothing is happening simply because we are having this baby. He wants to be able to be with me & our kids. He just may not be capable. Sad, but true.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
