DBing, European style

[Papa4Life]

So, my W and I just got back from the therapist where she told me in no uncertain terms that she wants a divorce. Last night she mentioned to me that she wants most of all to be friends with no emotional attachments at all. All of this was so herd to be, but I'm using the LRT and so I validated her feelings and I told her that I just wanted her to be happy. I also tried to keep a PMA at the therapist, and I think even she was surprised by how positive I was being. After we left my W came and asked for a hug and at first I said I didn't think that would be a good idea, but then I relented. She was talking in the car on the way home much more than she has been in the past -- of course about telling the kids, finances, the living situation -- so I think that's a good thing. I did tell her that I did not want to divorce, but that I support her in finding what will make her happy, and I mean it. I'm just going to keep DBing and keep up the 180s and hope for the best for my marriage and my children. Oh yeah, and me.