Ok t you gotta tell me how manamanadoodoo sounds in ur head. I read it as the muppets maNA maNA...doo DOOOO de DO-doo. Am i right?
Your h, wow. You have such compassion. Its like youre a natural at db. U did 12step right? Maybe that experience has given you a boost, natural coping skills.
Did u tell him he can move back in? My first thought was no way jose he hasnt done the work yet, but he has a point about the baby. Maybe a strict inhouse sep for a defined time wd b good help for you while not completely taking him back too soon.
Im almost thinking his cheating has been a way to sabotage himself out of self loathing without consciously being aware of it. He needs to want to change, then he needs to get real help and accountability. I listen to a religious radio advice show that talks about men needing to be in a small group of men in the church to maintain longterm accountability and support, to begin to be ablee to earn back their wive's trust after such betrayal.
Hang in there t.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
