That coming clean of hers, must have lifted a huge weight off her shoulders. A cleansing effect. She is gaining trust that she can off-load and you won't punish. This is very hard on you, make sure you don't forget your needs too.
Good to hear about the light. Just thought I'd throw it out there. Some people are surprised to learn these things but you're onto everything. Clever and caring soul that you are. Be good to yourself T.