Ruby, I get the idea. I don't want to sign something and then feel bad about it for years!
Grace, you've got a great point too. I am asking myself what I can learn from this experience. No answer yet except for how to do the financial calculations...
My H called in the AM and asked if we could talk then. We spoke for 1.5 hrs. I brought up the meeting I had with L #2 and what he had said, and how I didn't feel comfortable with what he requested. He actually listened. Then he said he wasn't willing to change what the L suggested to change bc he didn't feel financially protected if he did that. I suggested the mediator, and he seemed to like the idea. He said he would do the Special Masters but wasn't his first choice bc it would cost a total of 10 hours of lawyer time (5 per lawyer.) Then he said he didn't want to go to a trial bc we were very close to coming to an agreement and the expense was too much. So that was good. I thanked him for listening and told him I would let him know what I decided to do.
I found a mediator who seems to be good. I'll run the idea by my L tomorrow (have a meeting with him) and if he approves, I'll suggest it to my H.
The mediator idea sounds good. It feels ok when I think about it. Everything would happen outside of court, and it would be less expensive.
I had a twinge of sadness when I was on the phone w my H and he was trying to find a computer file that he titled "Tori." He was whispering the name as he tried to find the file, and his tone of voice brought back memories of the old H. So yeah, there is still some sadness in me.
