How long have you allowed your W to control you with her "upset" behavior?
I'm trying to figure out why you are seeking advice on a divorce busting forum, but are determined to file for the D. At first, I thought it was b/c you thought if would be a tactic to get your W back. But after seeing you say it would upset her......that tells me you are so use to being passive that you think you have to do whatever she wants.
Do you really want to save the M, or do you want to do what she wants?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
