Hey jp - at least your WAW is not having an affair anymore, but I agree it is always best if they make that choice on their own rather than having it forced on them. Again, using that tactic is a last resort if nothing else works and you lose patience.
ME/XW:47 S21, D19, S15, S14 M:21 T:26 W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12 W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline