Firstly, i just want to thank all the people out there giving me advice. I cannot tell how much this is helping so I just to make sure that I am appreciative of your help.

The hardest things at the moment are how freidnly my wife and I are together, we can talk just like we used to about the boys, friends etc but i have worked out that there is no point talking about us or our future...it just stresses her out.

You are right Accuray - I have to let her go..compeletely. I strongly believe that she has to go on her own journey to rediscover herself and her own strengths. Being a mother of two and a successful architect has worn her out and unfortunately i could have done a lot to help her as well, but instead i was busy trying to be the "man", get a better job, earn more money and set our family up financially.

I wrote her an email and expressed that I did not believe the C we had seen was the right person to guide us through the next steps, she agreed and we have since cancelled the appointment.I have decided to no longer drive the seperation as it does not feel right. This is not what i want. I will support my wife and her decision, but I cannot support the decision itself. I will allow her to make arrangments from here on and send my pride and ego on a holiday for a while...they are not helping at all.

I have to remind myself that no matter how much pain i feel, she is also suffering too. There are no winners in this scenario.
I cannot wait to get DB and DR, but I feel that the advice I am getting here is already sending me down the right path and I must continue to improve myself and keep strengthening the bond I have with my children as this is proving to be incredibly rewarding.

AND patience....must learn patience....damn thats a hard one.

Me - 37
W - 37
M -5
T - 15

S=5
S=3

Seperated - 12/12
BD - 20/03/13
Still seperated - no R or M talk yet.