Say What??

[25yearsmlc]

I agree with you 100%! H said I was so negative before and would always bring him down.

if there is ANY truth to ^^that, then changing it is great FOR YOU and your kids. Just saying...


I notice now when he is being negative he's waiting for me to help him be more positive. If I miss my cue, he says he thinks something's wrong. This the new me. The new positive me.

Journaling
H took the kids and I to his work today cuz they had a fair for the students. His coworkers came up to me and asked, are you Hs wife? I was reluctant and said yes. What am i going to say, err uh well we aren't married and we aren't living together sooo, no. It was a sort of reality check.

Another coworker H gets along with really well came up and said, it is a PLEASURE to meet you and I mean that sincerely.
WHOA! this is me mind reading...
Why? What did H tell you? Do you know about the affair? Does he know we are trying to work things out? What's with the emphasis on pleasure??? Ha? Ha? Ha?

Funny but I saw this^^ introduction as a total positive 2, seriously! I think he was saying he wanted to meet your h's family for real, hence the "I mean that sincerely" b/c he may have known your h was miserable for awhile, and is hopeful now that he'll be happier.

IF he knew about the affair, he sounds RELIEVED that it's over and is happy to meet YOU...


That's left me thinking for quite a bit. Regardless, H really liked it that we were there and he was eager to introduce us to the staff.

this^^ is what matters and what you can "know".

I'm having some quiet time. D1 is napping and S4 and H went with FIL to pick up his stuff for the marathon. FILs been doing this for the past 8years and he's about 55yo. He runs it in 3:55! crazy!!

keep up the good work!