"Yes, I stayed in contact, trying for an email every day, and maybe a call once a week."

Should have tried calling her every day. An email is very impersonal.

"I would sign the emails with "love","

"Love" is much better said and heard than written. Unless it was in a poem.

"I tried to stay in the kids' lives by e.g. sending my daughter a chapter of Sherlock Holmes (whom she likes) audiobook every day one trip."

Did you ever "talk" to them on the phone? Ask them how their day was, etc.?

"I sent flowers last year,"

Do you mean your W or your D? Either way, it was a gesture that was too late. How often did you do that when you were gone?

"Once, when she was on a business trip to Japan, I sent a romantic telegram to her at the hotel, apparently quite the stir with the bellboy having to find her. "

What did the "telegram" say? Was it just the telegram or did it come with flowers or anything special?

Sometimes I get the feeling that in the past, you would do "just enough". You might have thought it was enough, but it wasn't.

"The odd thing is that I've been told that I am empathetic on numerous occasions, typically by taxi drivers, "

Seriously? These are complete strangers. All you're doing is listening to them and agreeing. What would your D or son say about you?


M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER