Just catching up on your thread. ((((((((((Rabbit)))))))))
Hang in there...I understand how you're feeling. I don't think you were so much "controlling" as you were trying to set your boundaries with your W....as you said you felt like you were at her beck and call. Maybe this just wasn't the right way to do it. (uh oh, here comes that 2 x 4!!! )
I do agree that you should have given W an answer right away when she asked you about going to the rec centre...even if it was a "Let me think about it" or something like that just to show her that you have enough respect for her to acknowledge that she asked you a question. It drives me crazy when I ask somebody something and they don't even acknowledge me....it's not a good feeling.
That said...I'll put the 2 x 4 away now...lol.
Maybe you could invite your W to go to the rec centre and hot tub with you as soon as you have a free evening to do so. That might make her feel better and the bonus part of it is you get to spend some hot tub time with W...and you know how addictive those hot tubs can be!!!
I wish you all the best...I'll try to pop into chat soon.
)
