Wife said she was done!

[Maritimer]

Thanks waitingformagic, I haven’t felt this good in a while!

I have a question about cake eating and cheeseless tunnels..

Even with all my positive changes I don’t think she is responding to them positively. Is this a cheeseless tunnel or is it that it will take more time before she believes it is a permanent change. I really don’t know what else that I can do differently except to inquire why I feel she is still angry with me. I think that might come off as perusing which is a DB no no. When I say goodbye she just hangs up with no ending words. Same behavior when she leaves or when she goes to bed. It feels rude and even though I don’t show it , it hurts. I understand her right to be angry but to be mean is just not fair. We will have a lifelong connection because of the kids, I want it to be as civil as possible.

I done a complete 180 on all the negative aspects of my life and marriage. Could it be that she is angry that I have made positive changes? Do she want to be perused? Is she confused with what she want to do?

My therapist suggest because I stepped up so much she hasn’t thought about how much different it would be with me out of the picture. He feels she is taking advantage of the situation (cake eating). I do most of the cleaning, cooking, pay the bills, and take care of the kids while she goes out. I enjoy doing these things. He thinks I should talk with her about how the future would look without me in the picture but I am not comfortable doing that.

I think I need a DB reality check!