Something that you wrote really jumped out at me. It is a problem that I have been having with my H so I thought that I would share. When your wife asked you to go..."you didn't immediately say yes or no"...could this be the thing that made her mad? I know that it drives me crazy when I ask my husband something or make a comment about something and he doesn't respond! It makes a person feel very ignored...and a little angry. Why not give an immediate "I'm not sure". It's better than nothing believe me. And it let's your wife know that you heard her.
For her part...she feels controlled because she let your silence dictate her actions. Meaning, that if I was in her place, I would have gone to the rec center without you! Obviously, it wasn't so much that she wanted the work-out as that she wanted to spend time with you.
Obviously, it wasn't so much that she wanted the work-out as that she wanted to spend time with you. 