I agree with azguy and Inside Out, view this just like you're dating someone new. Perhaps you're different from me, but I would NEVER ask a new lady permission to hold her hand. You just go for it when the time seems right, and if she doesn't want that then she'll let you know. If you haven't read the Married Man Sex Life Primer in a while then you might, it is a little overboard in places but there is some great advice in there on good, strong alpha behavior that's appropriate for dating. Asking to hold hands is very beta
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So I guess I need help/clarity/direction here - once again I am in new ground in my situation. Not sure if I should be posting this here or in "piecing" - mostly because I am not 100% if I am piecing or not.
Not quite there yet although things do sound very positive You're not really officially in piecing until your W declares that she wants to reconcile.
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She said that she fears that we will go back to a spot where there is no passion or affection in our relationship...so I totally get where she is coming from. But at the same time I am afraid to show it because I partially fear that she doesn't want it from me and I just don't want to get smacked down.
Sounds like you're engaging in a lot of paralysis-by-analysis. Just quit it!! Enjoy the time you two spend together and just let things unfold! If you keep stressing over every little thing she does and how she's going to react to what you do then it's going to be really obvious to her and she's not going to find that attractive. Be confident, relaxed, content and happy around her. If you push to hold hands or something and she pushes back, don't pout! Throw her a little "oops I'm a bad boy" grin and let it go! Just act "as if" everything is fine! She doesn't want to hold hands, no biggie, you're still your own man!
