Validation - H sent me a text this am that he's going to Montana w/ his mother in May. That's amazing!! He has had ZERO tolerance or affection or patience or interest in his mother for nearly 15 years. He cut her off like a diseased limb and we had no contact with her for ages. I'm reading a lot into this, but am impressed that he is willing to give her a chance. And if he's willing to examine his relationship with his mother, maybe he's really ready to take some positive steps towards healing.
H: Going to MT with mom in May for 5 days. Wish me luck.
In light of validating him, please help me with a response?
I replied: Wow that's really cool! Was that your idea or hers? (think this may have been a little antagonistic)
H: I don't remember who's idea it was.
So I'd like to reply: I think that's really great. I'm really impressed and glad that you're giving her a chance.
It's the truth, but I think comes across as kind of superior? I want to tell him that it's such an amazing step towards healing some of his inner demons, that it shows his heart is opening to peace, that I hope his priorities are shifting and he's seeing the importance of family, and that I've spoken (too much!! ) to his mom a lot since he left and she's not as bad as we thought. She is damaged, just like we all are.
) to his mom a lot since he left and she's not as bad as we thought. She is damaged, just like we all are. 