MrBond thanks for a quick reply. Are you talking about the MC? I do see a benefit to continue with my IC but the MC has been painful for the both of us. More so for W than I but it has been painful for me as well. I just need to refocus on talking about my issues and not only about the issues within the M with IC. Since when I first went, I told them I want to make a decision of one way or another, they are pushing it to a decision and I don't think I am there yet.
The misnomer is, that if they are willing to go to MC, then there is hope on the horizon for the Marriage...
Sometimes it is productive, often times, it is not......yet
If one spouse has one foot out the door, rarely is there a solution that comes from that. Solutions will come, when the WAS is ready for a different decision for their future.
Your hope is for you, and don't let anyone take that from you, for any reason.
Be your own hero..
Bel, first realize that there are YEARS of resentment that has to come out of a WAS. That anger has to find a home some where. Often times, it attends a party held in the counselor's office during a MC session.
Most of the time, it doesn't conform to dress code, and arrives as an ugly beast. Ready to crash the party and knock over the punch bowl.....
Time and space will allow then to do away with a lot of that anger. As long as YOU don't perpetuate it, and provoke it into attending other events in your life.
Working on you, will allow you to accept your part in the failure of the relationship, and allow you to own your truth.
What would you say, not her, was YOUR biggest deficiency in the Marriage ???
Something that YOU didn't like about your role ???
