I like Bond's suggestion on keeping with the IC and dropping the MC for the time being. Is your W seeing IC too?
Originally Posted By: Bel123
Like I said before I feel like I am the only one that wants this to work. I need the vet's insight on how to go about this. I am committed to working on myself for myself.
That is generally how it goes....this isn't new news to anyone on the board. If our spouses want to work on it too, we'd be "piecing" as it's called.
You are ready to roll up your sleeves and work on you....so start doing it. Your W is not there yet...she's confused, she's lost. The tough part here is realizing that you can't "save her." She has to find her own way. When we DB, when we address our issues, find ourselves again, in a way I think we become a beacon for our spouses to find their way out of the fog.
You mentioned finding your own self-confidence again....what are you doing on that front? Have you read Married Man's Sex Primer? I think it's primary focus is finding that swagger again...worth the read.
What things about yourself are you looking at? What do you want to change? And I'm not talking actions (working out, smoking, etc), I'm talking about the way you think.
