We have to look at what is really going on here with you and we have not found it yet.
I know you want it over and done,and it will be. You have had the patience to come this far..what is stopping you from going that little more and seeing wht happens? [/quote]
Ruby, I think I'm afraid of: 1. The court system. The process could drag on forever. I want to move on completely. Don't want to spend hours a day working on this agreement/meeting with L's. 2. Having an adversarial R with my H. I know that when I talk to him and he starts sounding angry and aggressive, I immediately try to appease him and do what I can to reassure him and calm him down. In general, I don't like people being angry at me.
Also, going to court seems opposite to peace, which is my goal. I guess if I'm not treating fairly, court is the option, and I can always go to court with a peaceful attitude.
I will be honest with my H this afternoon and tell him how I feel about this. I already scheduled a meeting with my L for tomorrow. We'll see what happens.
FY, you are right about my H wanting to take advantage of my not wanting to go to court. He was always the best negotiator during our M, and would never give anything without expecting to receive a lot more...
