you mentioned at first, on Monday, that your coach told you NOT to withdraw and then later the same day
you posted this:
I've read about some of you going silent for months. I'm thinking of going silent except to respond to her contact for the remaining 9 days of my trip. Yeah, I know! This is different for me. Figured I would "press to test".
When doing DR, how long were you guys implementing changes before changing things up again?
How long before we changed things up? You have not done a single course of action for 90 days...
I mean, if you could tell immediately that some behavior was hurting things, then change. If you are not sure then first make sure your change is clearly being made and then give it time for her to trust that it's real. THEN she can see how she feels about it.
I sense so many mixed signals coming from you I have to say, a man who is unsure of himself cannot be reassuring to a wife who needs to KNOW he's there for her...
Don't try to reassure her for 2 weeks and then when you are "away" from home and COULD be with an OW or doing something sneaky or weird or that she does not trust
THEN stop contacting her...how odd.
You're in the mode of "I must do...SOMETHING" and that's not a good place to be.
Trust your DB coach and do what they say until IF & when you know it's hurting things
and THEN you can make an adjustment.
What traits are you most working on?
Also, instead of making your posts ALL about what she says, or does or your fears...
please tell us ONE GAL thing you do this month.
Join something, go somewhere new or sign up for a class and BE DIFFERENT and less predictable.
Not in a way that feels threatening to her, but in a way that interests YOU and thereby helps you know who you are.
Good luck!
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
