Wow, dude...we call it the hamster wheel...get off.
Ya, the no initiating contact was not a go for me, but H and I are separated by an hour, so I do not have much opportunity to create space...it already exists. But when I didn't initiate, he played as well. Now I initiate way less and only with something to tell about kids etc. Sure we will text about other stuff, but I always wait for something benign. That way, he doesn't think I am shutting him out and I can give him the chance to chat more without having to be obliged to, if you know what I mean.
