Hi everyone, Thankyou so much to everyone who has posted on my thread. It has really been a support for me. Since I have no previous thread to link to for history for those unfamiliar with me--here is a brief recap. M-almost 37 years; 3 kids--S(30), S(28)w 2 1/2 yr old, Dau(26); In-house separation almost 6 years; this turned to discussions of D about 3 months ago and her looking for an apt. About 1 month ago she changed to "you are the one who should be moving". Since starting her apartment search, her coming and going other than work had been erratic and the hostility level around the house had risen appreciably. When she came home and said "we need to talk" about 2 weeks ago, I renewed hopes that we might somehow work our way out of this yet. Now we have essentially returned to the position we were in 6 months ago---an in-house sep. sort of like assigned college roommates. She has consented to go out with just me several times since then, (maybe a small change since previously she didn't want to be 'out' with me unless it was a family or social function at which we were "expected" to be togather. The anger flares still continue (especially the day after being out togather), I still validate and other than that pretty much have to bite my tongue to keep the tit for tat type discussions at a minimum. Ok folks-what am I missing here? What should I be doing or not doing at this point to help move us along? I don't want to continue things as they were. I had reached a point earlier where I decided for me, that things either had to get better here or that I needed to move to a situation where they could get better. Harv.
