I'm trying to get him to get his own place...he'll be home tom. from his a work trip and still thinks I want him to stay and work things out, need him, want him!! I just want to work out a mutual S and have him leave within a certain agreed time frame.

HE's stuck on- you want me to love you, don't you, and be like I was!

The past can't be ahead of you in the future.
You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction.
What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!