Is there light at the end of the tunnel Part 1?

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So we and our IC received the following email from out MC


My conclusion from meeting individually with you this week (as echoed by both of you) is that it is most important for each of you to work intensively in your individual therapies to reach some resolution about how to proceed with your situation. I do not believe that we are at the point where the three of us can discuss this together in a useful manner. However, I am committed to helping you do that whenever it is possible. To make progress toward that goal, I recommend that you each use the next two weeks working with your therapists to determine if and/or how you would like to use the space of couples treatment to seek some resolution. I will also be in contact with them directly about the advisability and/or timing of scheduling a joint session. Furthermore, if it would be useful for me to meet with each of you individually again before another couples session, we can do that as well.

Please call or email me with questions or concerns about this treatment plan.


I am afraid this will push it to the edge if not push it over the cliff. Like I said before I feel like I am the only one that wants this to work. I need the vet's insight on how to go about this. I am committed to working on myself for myself. I also don't want to go through the process as I know it is not fun and will leave long lasting scar both for me and W. I am feeling alone and not supported and I believe W is in the same place of feeling alone and not supported. How sad that is to not be there to support each other in this state of the M. I wish I could just go there and give her a hug and tell her how I want to be there for her. I know that is not what she wants so I will have to sit by and let her handle it herself. Is that the way I am supposed to respond? I am so lost right now.

I would love to hear positive stiches that are similar to mine so I can see there is a possibility of hope in this. I am detaching but I am not fully there yet. It was looking like climbing a big hill and now it is looking like a mountain.