I think sometimes people want to go through life at a different pace. Maybe dinner could have been simplified, kids could skip baths, or the kids can do their own homework.
I am not saying that your H didn't have his own faults. Personally, I know that the more I helped out, the more time my W had to fill her life with more stuff. It didn't free up time for us. I still never made the list.
You ask //Should I just have ignored the children//? At some point, you do need to ignore the children and make your H the priority. It is about balance. Were you balanced? Or, were the children and work always given the priority?
I know personally, that I didn't have the right balance. I didn't make myself, or my W enough of a priority. Look were it got me.
