After lying there a few minutes tears started to come out of her eyes. I asked her "what's wrong?"
I just absolutely cringe whenever I read those words!!!! Don't EVER ask your W (or any woman) "what's wrong?" Why? Because you are implying that something is wrong with HER and she cannot reply without it sounding like she's confirming that there IS something wrong with her! That's why women almost always respond to this question with "nothing." It is the only safe answer that says "there's nothing wrong with ME." Instead, ask "what are you feeling right now?" You are inviting her to open up and share her feelings without implying that there is anything wrong with her crying/ being down/ etc.
AS thanks for this, I never knew and I always ask what is wrong...
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
