I disagree. We did address things. I said no to renovation and selling.
Me pushing into the master bedroom is probably going to make her resentful. She said that she really couldn't stand being in the same room with me, that I did not have to come to MIL birthday party.
I said that she could sleep downstairs instead of me, why should I suffer and be lonely down there? She said "buddy, I have suffered by your being gone so much, gallivanting carefree in California for your career". She felt strongly that I had, by being gone so often and long, cost her her career and a higher income (mine is 4x higher). There was resentment.
Perhaps I could assert my testicular right to be upstairs, but I think doing so could have a price too, "the inconsiderate taker pushing me out, away from the kids".
Maybe this is all just rationalization, but a retreat from my assertion seemed appropriate at the time.
L
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
