He probably isn't ready for that (which he seems to confirm by not responding to your question). PT is the hardest PLL to address while also DB'ing, but if you're going to try to show PT then do it in non-sexual ways like a touch on the arm or shoulder. I used to think that even that was too much pursuit, but I've since seen this recommended by DB coaches.
I agree. I hug him every time he comes by and he actually hugs me back. Sometimes he hugs me longer when I'm ready to pull away because I start welling up. BUT early on I couldn't touch him and I was so scared around him all the time. My coach did suggest I'd do something little more drastic to get over the fear. He told me to take out a little step stool, get on it and give him a hug or kiss when he did something nice. This advice was given to me while my H was still living here. I just could not do it but few days later I asked my H to teach me how to use a tool I’d never used before and on his way out to his friends’ house, I gave him a hug and he hugged me back. I also started giving him a kiss on his forehead just about the time he was falling asleep.
It was still awkward but then his grandpa passed away a month later or so and we actually got closer because of the support I’d given him. I hugged him many times during the hard time to give him comfort. One time I even noticed he kissed me on my head while hugging him. After this event, hugging him came really natural to me. This is around the time I noticed he was hugging me back really tight every time I initiated. So based on my experiences, I would suggest you ask your H to do something really small (picking up kids etc) and give him a hug with a genuine Thank you and see how he reacts.
M37 H36 M8 T12 inc 3yr L-dist 7/12:H broke down 10/12:H dad D frm W4. BD soon after 1/13:H wants to leave 2/13:H gpa passed. Feels closer but H still leaving 3/13: S begins
