I just got sexually harassed at work by a fellow co-worker. Went out last week for a work related function with many other co-workers, and this particular person (we shall call him SH) came on to me. When i politely refused his advances, he started accusing me of of awful things, examples are: now I know why your husband left you, you have demons inside of you that you need to deal with, you are a bad friend, etc. Then he grabbed my hand and wouldn't let me leave to my car. luckily im a strong girl and pushed him off and was able to get away. I had witnesses to all of this.
I tried to ignore all of these things and chalked it up to alcoholic induced stupidity, and left with my best girlfriend for the night. When I woke up to go to work I saw that SH has left over 20 text messages for me saying that he wanted to talk to me and he was waiting outside the door of my home (at 2 in the Morning!!!!). I refused to answer any of his messages, unfortunately, they only progressed and SH became uglier and meaner. I had to report him to my supervisor at that point.
I huge investigation is now underway, I feel terrible because i know for a fact that I did not lead this person on....I have been separated but still wear my wedding ring and profess my love for my husband to everyone at work. And i am so not the flirtatious type anyway.
So my dilema, should I tell my H about this? My job has placed a restraining order on SH and a administrative stay away order as well. Will this make me look unattractive to my H? Will he get angry? I want to tell him because this is scary and in every other time in our lives I would have shared this with him. I just don't want to do anything that my hurt my chances to get back with my H.
